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My Familys' Financial Rule #1

October 16th, 2007 at 07:00 am

I'm struggling with the rule.....the very first and foremost rule my parents instilled in me. Don't talk about money or finances or investments to anyone!

I did OK when I wasn't living here, and I was doing OK all summer........but now, this week, not so good.

Mom is determined to keep all financial dealings to herself. It's OK if I know about them, it's just not OK to let her twin in on anything. Or 4 of the 5 grandsons. Or, any other relatives.

This means all the beach house dealings have to be done on the sly.....which paints a pretty funny picture. We can't do any of the listing of properties....zip. I can see this stopping the new house deal in it's tracks.

I'm also not enjoying the feeling I have to think before I even start to speak about anything. (definately not what I'm used to.....) If I can figure out a time I'll be with mom alone, I do need to talk to her about this, as it is going to make me more nuts than usual. Perhaps on the way to her Dr appt on Wed?

This same rule spills over to health issues........mom hasn't told a soul about her recent ER visit. Only told her twin because I complained about how hard it was going to be with both of them here.....didn't think I could keep up the sneaky little act bit.

An off shoot of this whole Rule bit is affecting another piece..... I had been writing to my dads brother monthly....for decades. Since I got here and all this new stuff started happening, I haven't written. A few short emails, that's it. There isn't anything "legal" to write about. Tons going on, and my uncle would enjoy hearing about it all........but mom is NOT going to tell him she is selling property, buying something new or about her recent health issues. Drat. Didn't really realize how much I had missed talking & writing to this gentleman until I have it down here in black & white.

Can't wait til Wed to see if I can make any headway with mom. Sometimes rules are made to be broken, right??

Posted in lifes' rules | 4 Comments »

4 Responses to “My Familys' Financial Rule #1”

  1. denisentexas Says:
    October 16th, 2007 at 07:09 am 1192514978
    1192514978

    Maybe the Wednesday idea will work out. I hope so. That would drive me crazy having to stop and think like that before saying anything. Let us know how that goes.

    By the way, way to on getting your seeds out and gathering a few more in between rain showers. Every little bit helps, huh?

  2. baselle Says:
    October 16th, 2007 at 07:31 am 1192516310
    1192516310

    Your family sounds like my family. They didn't happen to come from the Midwest, did they? Unopened envelopes and fiscal secrecy by the old folks. Even now, I have no idea what's in gramma's will. Good luck on Wednesday.

  3. Carolina Bound Says:
    October 16th, 2007 at 02:22 pm 1192540964
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    Good grief. There is a difference between being private and being obstinate. I wonder why that generation is so closed about money and health? My parents were much the same.

  4. disneysteve Says:
    October 16th, 2007 at 02:58 pm 1192543084
    1192543084

    It is such a bad idea to be secretive about money and health issues with close family. You don't need to go blabbing to everyone, but it is so important for those close to you to know what is going on in case anything happens to you.

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