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Some People: Magnets for Bad Stuff ??

October 14th, 2006 at 11:16 am

I heard that saying years ago from a therapist who was working with some of my kids.........he didn't explain it, other than to say it. Over the years, I've thought of the saying often and today, it's playing out here again with The Room Mate Person.

I had to let the little dog out this AM (early!!!) and noticed room mate persons vehicle wasn't in the driveway. Hmmmm
Then, saw their wallet and a traffic ticket on the counter......Hmmmm

This AM, I find the rest of the story includes totalling the truck, room mate person is OK, did spend the night in the ER, still don't know the whole chain of events....but the bad stuff just lurks behind every corner for this person.

Of course, every step of this new development will cost money. (none of it mine......directly) I know bills here will take a back seat while new transportation is acquired. Work will take a back seat to court dates & more medical appointments. So, in the long run........I take a hit or two finance wise.

I have been holding a hard line re; bills & such and this event just gives me more to work with. I will not give in. I won't help with a new vehicle. I will hold this person to the original agreement that we have on the now crunched old vehicle. (loan paid off, but money still owed to me that was used for the down payment)

I have to give credit to the magnet for Bad Stuff theory.......... I would be writing for weeks if I were to list all the negative stuff this person collects. I don't know if it's attitude, or other people this person chooses to be with or what. I've never known anyone that continually has what some term "bad luck" that lasted for decades and decades.

Since nothing I've done over the years seems to make a whit of difference as to what happens to this person.........I'm going to stick with 'doing nothing' this time. I've learned not to rush in and Fix Everything, although it is tempting. I don't have enough $$ to solve this situation; and wouldn't if I did. So, I'm an observer....... I'll try to keep my mouth shut and practice being grateful for all the positive things in my life.

4 Responses to “Some People: Magnets for Bad Stuff ??”

  1. LuxLiving Says:

    I had a 'black cloud' friend once. I tend to think she and her husband rather invited it in upon themselves with their thinking. I too bailed them out many a time when their kids were young...with food - groceries or cooked meals or dinner invites...I couldn't stand the thought of the kids going hungry because of the parents stupid manuevers. At one point after lots of soul-searching on my part I had to remove myself from their circle. Sad.

    Sorry to know that you'll be getting the short end of the stick on your roommate's bungle!

  2. PRICEPLUS Says:

    It is true that some people bring serious bad mojo with them. Don't klet them pull you down with them!Wink

  3. Bookie Says:

    The practice of rescuing people from the consequences of their life choices is commonly known as "enabling."
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    What's interesting about it is the dynamic which devleops between the hapless "victim" and the heroic "rescuer," as they play out their roles. We see a lot of that in social services consultation. Once established the cyclical pattern is very difficult to break.

  4. mjrube94 Says:

    Doing nothing is the way to go. "Lie down with dogs, get up with fleas!"

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